Thursday, April 12, 2012

Police, doctor warn lovers

Major cities in the country, especially, Lagos, are replete with reported cases of lovers who went to the hotels or guest houses to catch fun, only for one or both to die while having s*x. Sometimes, such deaths are attributed to the traditional medicine (juju) popularly known in Yoruba as magun, secretly administered on suspected unfaithful female partners, by their husbands and lovers, to checkmate their infidelity. Also, the blame is put at the doorstep of some hotel owners, who are accused of causing the mysterious death of their clients for more business boom.

 However, this allegation has neither logical nor scientific proof. But doctors have different views on such deaths. Since the case of magun and other allied deaths cannot be proved scientifically, doctors usually link it to heart attack or cardiac arrest and other illnesses that may make one unfit for marathon s*x. Death of male lovers in hotel rooms and guest houses have also been blamed on some s*x enhancing drugs and drinks.

 The death of the late Deputy Inspector General of Police (DIG),Ganiyu Dawodu in a hotel in Lagos, is still fresh in our memory. His case is one out of many. The late DIG was said to have returned from South Africa where he went to treat heart related ailment. Besides cardiac arrest, some victims were confirmed to have died after romp with female partners. In most cases the surviving partner would quickly abscond for fear of arrest. The unfortunate ones, who tried to save the situation would be arrested and interrogated. 

They are expected to convince the police that it was mere s*x that resulted in the death of the deceased. One such person is Faith Bassey. She was arrested by the police to answer questions over what happened in a hotel room that led to the death of a middle aged man, Boniface Nwachie. Nwachie died after he allegedly had s*x with her. The two lovers had checked into a Hotel in Ijesha area of Surulere, Lagos. They were said to have checked in about 8:20 p.m. It was gathered that they ordered for drinks at about 8.40pm. Shortly after that, a staff of the hotel said Bassey raised alarm, claiming that Nwachie collapsed, as they were having s*x. The staff reportedly rushed into the room and tried to revive the man to no avail as he was later confirmed dead in a hospital.

 Bassey admitted that their s*x life was a very active one, adding that the late Nwachie was no stranger to her s*x routine as he had been her lover for a long time. She, however, said she suspected that her late lover might have been medically unfit that night. In a similar circumstance, a Youth Corps member died after s*xual intercourse in Edo. Police detained his partner, pending the outcome of the post mortem to be conducted on the deceased. 

The Edo State Police Public Relations Officer (PPRO), Peter Ogboi confirmed the death of the Youth Corps member, who died during s*xual intercourse with his girlfriend in her house in Benin. His girlfriend, a student of Shaka Momodu Polytechnic, name withheld, said she and her boyfriend (name also withheld) had hung out, during which time he took alcohol and suya, a delicacy prepared from cattle or goat meat. She also said she accompanied him to a place where he bought an undisclosed drug before they went to bed. 

According to her, at about 2.a.m. when the s*xual session was on, he started shouting and his shouts attracted the neighbours, who tried all they could, including prayers, to revive him from exhaustion but all to no avail. Also in Lagos, a final year student of the Lagos State University, Ojo, Chinyere Ezeala, 27, was found dead in her lover’s room at Ejigbo, Lagos, after a marathon s*x. Police at Ejigbo alleged that the 400-Level student was found dead on her lover’s bed at 36, Fayemi Street, Ejigbo, Lagos, putting on a wrapper. Her boyfriend, Ifeanyi Sunday, who works at the Apapa wharf allegedly reported her death to the police the following morning and was quickly arrested and detained. 

The Edo State Police Command investigated the sudden and mysterious death of a middle-aged man in a popular hotel room in Benin. The man (names withheld) was found stone dead in the early hours of a Monday morning, after he was due to check out of the hotel, located in the highbrow Government Reserved Area (GRA). He was said to have lodged in the hotel with a lady on the Christmas Eve, before the ugly incident occurred. Source close to the Tourists Centre disclosed that the deceased was discovered by one of the hotel staff. 

The deceased guest was said to have lodged in the hotel, after a party that ended in the early hours in the morning. He was said to have attended the party in company of some of his close friends and the suspect (girlfriend) whose name could not be ascertained as at the time of filing this report. It was gathered that no injury was found on the deceased when it was examined. Again, in Surulere Lagos, a young sales girl, Precious, was also arrested by the police after her lover, Emenike, died in an hotel after s*x. Investigation revealed that the young man, who had a medical history of hypertension, started gasping for breath shortly after the s*x.

 Precious confessed at the police station that after the first round of s*x, the deceased complained of heart ache and requested for some water. Before she could get the water, Emenike started gasping for breath and slumped. Alarmed, Precious, who had been the hotel’s client for a long period called the attention of the receptionist and some staff of the hotel who helped to rush him to the nearest hospital, where he was confirmed dead.

 A source who doesn’t want his name in print said some men, who were dead while having extramarital affairs with another man’s wife, only received punishment for their action. “There is no need of arrest or physical assault on the intruder. The best thing is to plant the magun on the woman without her knowledge. Magun literally translated from the Yoruba means, ‘don't climb’. The 'climb' itself represents the s*xual act. It is a charm that the Yoruba use to check infidelity among adulterous wives and female partners,” he explained. In the South East, some communities have a custom which forbids married women to cheat on their husbands. 

Any violation of the custom or tradition has dire consequences. One of the penalties is either, the children, the woman or husband is struck by mysterious ailment, which may result in death if nothing is done by way of sacrifice, appeasement or confession by the adulterous woman. Magun or by whatever name it is called in different parts of the country, remains a potent phenomenon. Its myth, mystery and reality are wrapped in controversy. 

A typical case which was reported in a national daily recently happened in Port Harcourt, Rivers State. The victim was said to have died of magun. The story had it that a man got transferred from Port Harcourt to Lagos. But because of the urgency of his transfer, he couldn't move members of his family immediately. As a result, he entrusted his wife to the care of one of his friends. Later, neighbours discovered the friend had gone beyond his brief and whispered in the man’s ears that his friend had become 'too caring'. Soon after, the lifeless body of the man was carried out of the house. 

The cause was attributed to 'magun'. Reacting to the upsurge of deaths in hotels after s*x, the Lagos State police command spokesman, Mr. Joseph Jaiyeoba, advised people to always ascertain the health status of their partners before engaging in marathon s*x with them. He also warned men, especially, those who are in the habit of picking girls from brothels, to be wary of the type of women they sleep with. “Some of these prostitutes would stop at nothing, to extort money from their clients, both legal and illegal means.

 This has resulted in some unresolved cases of deaths, especially, in guest houses,” he said. On the possibility of arresting owners of hotels or guest houses, where such tragic deaths occurred, Jaiyeoba said as long as the s*x partner is available at the time of the incident, the owner of the hotel is absolved of any blame. He quickly added, where a dead body is found, the people on duty are usually arrested to assist the police in their investigation. In an event of escape of the s*x partner, those on duty would be arrested. But as soon as autopsy reveals the cause of the death, such persons would be released,” he said. 

 But a medical doctor, Emmanuel Enabulele, has a different view of possible causes of death during s*x. According him, whoever dies during s*x must have a medical history that makes him or her unfit to have s*x at the time he or she did. Dr Enabulele, who is a surgeon and the Medical Director, Jokem Clinic, Lagos, blamed the upsurge in s*x related death, on the use of drugs that contain Sildenafil, a product found in Viagra and some energy drinks. “It is very possible that a man or woman can die during s*x. It could be as result of exhaustion.

 It could be as a result of taking drugs that contains Sildenafil which can be found in Viagra. It can also be found in energy drinks which increase libido and the length of erection. It is natural that after a s*xual encounter, a man cannot get erection till some period of time. What this drug does is to reduce the timing, making it possible for a man to get an erection immediately after a round of s*x.

 The content of the drinks have effect on the heart, which might lead to sudden seizure or even stroke during s*x. If you are going out with a man that, after the first round of s*x, he quickly recovers, be careful, such a person might be taking enhancement drugs,” he said. On who is at a risk of having an attack during s*x, Dr Enabulele said: “If you are not sick, you will not have a problem. If a woman has a complicated hypertension, such a person can have a cardiac arrest or in worse cases, the person may have stroke. 

This is so because, orgasm leads to the pumping of adrenaline to the heart during the massive electrical charge which takes place during s*x. It is a very rigorous act. Those people that after having s*x, you notice palpitation, their heart starts beating very fast. If the environment is not conducive, it could be multi factorial. It could be emotional, psychological or endocrine in action. At this stage, the hormones and blood vessels are inter-playing. It is more hectic than someone running a hundred meters race.” He said age has nothing to do with s*x. “It all depends on the health of the couple and the ability to go through the act. Some are very rigorous in the act, some are mild and some are just there.

 It could be as a result of so many things. Most men are womanizers and by the nature of their job, they move from one location to the other. In the process, they acquire different concubines and these women have to be s*xually satisfied. Most Nigerian men have this sick mentality, that if they do not satisfy a woman, it means he is not man enough. To make a point, they have to use some kind of drug to support themselves, without finding out the health implications. “The fact remains that there are lots of walking corpses out there that have not seen the four walls of a hospital. They do not know their sugar level and many people who discovered that they are hypertensive do so by mistake.”

 On how to avoid death during s*x, Dr Enabulele advised that a s*xual encounter should be between consenting adults, and should also be recognized as a very vigorous activity which involves blood flow. “It involves the use of the hormonal and endocrine system, and the person must be fit to engage in such act. If one is not well, he should have the courage to tell the partner and find a way to work it out. Avoid multiple s*x partners. 

 There are cases where a man, after having a round of engaging s*x with his wife, sneaks out to meet his girlfriend, who only wants the man’s money. In order to prove to the woman that he is man enough, he sneaks into the rest room and swallows something that will give him erection, goes and pounds himself to death. Nigerians, especially our men, should be man enough to know when to have s*x and when to let go. If it is money that a woman wants, give her and save your life. Nigerians, especially, Lagosians are stressed up and no man, after going through such, jumps into s*x without getting adequate rest.” 

 He also advised both men and women to be aware that they can experience menopause. “People should be proud to accept menopause when it approaches. It is not only for women but men. You find out that most men start menopause at 50years. The s*xual urge will be there and you will start having weak erection. We should also know that diabetes can cause weak erection and that is when most men take s*x enhancing drug. You can imagine what that drug would do to a diabetic patient. 

People should be educated to know that s*x is supposed to be fun not a competition. You must be healthy, and avoid taking energy drink for s*x. That you cannot do it at a moment does not mean that you can never do it. “I teach people that orgasm in s*x is between a man and a woman. Naturally, for inexperienced partner, it is the man who reaches orgasm first, but for an experienced partner, the man would make use of the sensitive part of the woman’s body to make her reach orgasm before he does. The average Nigerian man is an idiot when it comes to s*x.

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